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So why can’t you be instantly romantically in love?You have a conversation for a few minutes, the person flirts with you, smiles, expresses real interest in you and BOOM!She has devoted almost her entire career to working out why we love, whom we love and how we love.And she believes that her findings could help steer the ever-increasing number of single people through the minefield that is modern dating.’– she claps her hands together in delight – 'you’re off to the races.’ Dr Fisher knows a lot about love.
'Similarly, that you can be set up on a date and just know immediately that it isn’t going to work.
You know: he’s too tall, too short, too fat, too thin, too old, too young, too pink, too green.’ When we talk about having chemistry with someone, it may be that it is more literal than we think.
Fisher and her colleagues at the Center for Human Evolution Studies at Rutgers University in New Jersey have scanned the brains of about 60 people who claimed to be in love.
And so it is that I find myself sitting in Fisher’s flat on the Upper East Side of New York, just one of countless singletons to have passed through her door in the hope of understanding where they keep going wrong.
Her bookshelves, crammed with scientific tomes, are testament to the very different approach that she takes to the dating game – it is intellectual and scholarly rather than airy-fairy, self-help flim-flam.
But our temperament – whether we are curious, stubborn, aggressive, agreeable – has a real biological basis to it.