How to handle online dating
I was excited to see some great conversation happening in the comments of my piece “The Top Three Mistakes Men Make in Online Dating.” Both men and women shared their experiences with online dating and debated over the mistakes and fixes I offered in the piece. How do you reconcile a trillion different preferences in order to offer men advice on what to do to be successful with online dating? All I can do is set some parameters and offer my advice based on my own experiences and hope that it helps at least a few guys out there.Throughout it all, what became most apparent during the discussion is that men didn’t want a “don’t” list. What they really want is some advice on what I hesitated to even write this piece because what people like is far more subjective than what people don’t like. To that end, this is my list “to do’s” for people (yes, people, not just men) who are trying to find a long-term partner using an online dating site: 1.Dating online affords you the wonderful opportunity of casting a very wide net.By simply changing your zip code or being open to the possibility of meeting someone who resides in another continent, true love can be found across town or across the world.
Tip: If you’re just starting out as an online dater, pick just 1 or 2 sites to sign up with in the beginning so you don’t get overwhelmed.As you become more comfortable with the platforms, you can sign up for more. Dating and relationship coach Maya Diamond says: "A lot of people are afraid to say why they're really online because they want to cast a wide net.Unfortunately, what really happens is that you end up attracting the wrong people." Chloe Carmichael, Ph D is a licensed clinical psychologist who runs a successful private practice in New York City, focusing on relationship issues, stress management, and career coaching.Think of it this way: as you’re perusing profiles looking for someone who might make a good match, do you contact the people with hardly anything in their profiles? There’s no formula for this; all I can say is do not try to be someone you think others want you to be.It’s just like posting an inaccurate photo of yourself; sooner or later people are going to realize that’s not the real you, throwing your chances of a long-term relationship out the window. Don’t write a novel: Just as you don’t want to have too sparse of a profile, you also don’t want your profile to be a novel.
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