Every month in Sex at Our Age, award-winning senior sexpert Joan Price answers your questions about everything from loss of desire to solo sex and partner issues. To send your questions directly to Joan, email Is casual sex a “thing” for our age group? I’m not ready for a steady dating relationship—and I’m certainly not looking for a husband—but I’m lonely for sex.I enjoy my vibrator, but I miss the feeling of skin on skin and the embrace of another body. Sometimes I wish I could just have a man in bed for an afternoon when I want him, then have him go away.She had a close friend who was also open to a sexual friendship without commitment, and some exploratory kissing showed them that they really were sexually attracted to each other.They talked about their needs, desires, expectations and boundaries, being careful to speak honestly and non-judgmentally, and to really listen to each other.Girls and guys are looking for roughly the same thing, and many have happily found satisfaction together in a casual fuck buddy relationship.
There are many reasons that people of our age want a sexual partner without a committed relationship. Maybe you already have the right friend, and just need to add the benefits! You’ll have to look inside yourself to decide whether it’s right for you.
Bars and parties are notorious hunting grounds, but you can be bold anywhere.
Talking to girls in the grocery store, library, work, coffee shop, stoplight, or anywhere else creates the opportunity for a connection that might pan out later.
Whatever works for two people mutually is much more important than any either-or rule.
And so, while you might not be comfortable with your friend’s sexual behavior, that is not the only option outside of love and marriage.
Is that sexist, treating a grown man like a boy toy?